I would be remiss if I didn’t mention the passing of a music icon, Ms. Whitney Houston. I am not going to spout statistics or talk about how many albums she sold. We all know she had a beautiful voice. What surprised me was how much her death affected me. I said it when they got married “someone will change to be like the other, let’s just pray that Bobby changes to be like her.” Well we all see that, that didn’t happen.
As I said Whitney’s death really affected me; I was actually surprised at how much. I have been thinking about this and trying to pinpoint “why” the death of someone I didn’t even know has touched me so. She was very young, in fact only 2 years older than myself. I didn’t think that’s what it was. I prayed for her throughout the years that she would get clean and come back to her senses. Well she finally did and got a divorce so my hopes were high for her; I thought “that’s not it either.” So that leaves me with the music…yes, the music. Her music is woven like a golden thread throughout the last 25 years of my life. Her music played like a soundtrack to major events in my life; my wild oats days, my divorce, the birth of my children, graduations, and deaths in my own family. It’s amazing the effect music has on the mind and body; it can calm, it can excite, it can create suspense. Think about a movie; would it be as exciting or suspenseful without a soundtrack? When you think back what songs played to the important moments in your life?
This brings me to the statement above about Bobby and Whitney’s marriage… The bible says that when we get married, we should be equally yoked. A lot of Christians take this to mean that a Christian shouldn’t marry someone that is not saved or someone from another faith, well this also applies to other things. You can’t have to polar opposites in a marriage and expect success. If you really want your marriage to work you can’t have a partier married to a non-partier, a workaholic married to someone who values quality family time, a religious person married to a non-religious person, etc. Someone will make compromises for the sake of the other person. Eventually their choices have become your choices and you’ll find yourself in the same boat you were trying to get out of. Now it is possible for the person that isn’t making good choices to change and become like the responsible party in the relationship but it happens less often than the responsible party becoming irresponsible. Let’s face it, it’s easier to be irresponsible and in some cases more fun.
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